Why does everyone assume that once you are out of a relationship, you jump into another immediately? Can I stay single for a while?
I have been in a very long-term, long-distance relationship. And after a while, it had taken its toll. It might be devastating but it’s for the best. I have spent too long on a “lost cause”. We both know it’s coming. I have kept quiet about it. Not all my friends know.
Anyway, apparently, now that I’m single, people who knew what happened have asked me – i mean, on several occasions – “so are you ready to mingle?”, “how’s your lovelife?” or “do you have a boyfriend now?”. Can I breathe first?
And whenever I say, “I’m not looking” or “I’m not ready yet!” there’s a follow-up comment – “You’re not getting any younger. Do you even have plans to get married, settle down, have a family, etc.?”
To clarify. Yes, I want to settle down. Of course, I want to have a family. Yes, I am getting older (no need to rub it in). No one grows younger, except for Benjamin Button (The Curious Case of Benjamin Button).
But I don’t want to push myself into doing something I’m not ready for. I know deep inside that if I give in to their persistence – to their sneaky setups, they’ll just be disappointed. I just want to let things flow. I have held myself back too long that I’ve finally have a chance to do what I want, and now is the best time.
I am not closing myself to meeting people. I just don’t expect everything to go immediately or straight to a relationship. It will scare him and me.
If during the course of my journey, I found what God has destined for me, that would be awesome. But right now, I’m taking my time. No need to hurry. When the time is right, it will come.